Biases in Online Dating
I have another e-date next week. Just checked my mail and found out about it. I think this one will go a little better -- took more time to get to know the guy and ask all the right questions. But I'm still very worried about what he'll think when he sees me for the first time. He's had three weeks to dream up false expectations.
This whole e-dating thing favors two types of people -- the photogenic (not me) and the articulate. Happily I'm pretty damn articulate. Wrote my current ad while under the influence of two margarita-flavored wine coolers, and I really like the results. Took some risks, and tried to let the words define all my intangibles, like my love of words and my general to-hell-with-it attitude. Don't want to paste the entire thing in here (starting to be leery of Googlestalking -- my life is too visible online) but I did say I have a love/hate relationship with deadlines and milkshakes, and that I kiss like a sip of amaretto -- whatever that means.
Anyway, this new ad drew responses in spades. I'm having to actually pick and choose who to answer.
I know I'll meet someone. I just have to force myself to go out on enough bad dates to find that good date.
4 Comments:
Have you tried eharmnoy? I've heard some positive things about it.... if you can get past the mountain of paperwork.
online dating - sounds scary -
is it actually scary?
I believe that amaretto is a hard, little round cookie that encompasses italian coffee - in a dessert fashion. It has a definite taste, but my english is way too rusty to consider expanding such description.
right now i'm under the influence of original cuban rhum, sent to me by a friend studying medicine in cuba - so, what the heck... i might be verborragic, but you know how the internet is...
so you're from dallas. i heard there's going to be a re issue of the dallas tv series in dvd format. i always felt like asking someone from dallas about dallas. i'm from buenos aires, argentina. if you don't know what i'm talking about, i don't blame you. so, this is way down the equator, where we are still allowed to smoke in pubs, bars, airports and public buildings.
god save bill hicks.
greetings
manook®
pd: you look great on the pic - take it from me.
Manook, "Dallas" used to be huge here. Everybody from Texas knows of the show Dallas (or SHOULD) and who Larry Hagman is. Funny thing is "Dallas" was actually filmed on a sound stage in Hollywood, California. The outside shots were done occasionally by flying a photographer to Dallas, TX.
My father-in-law used to work on the set of the show doing the greenery (Plants, trees, flowers, and such.) My friend from London LOVES Dallas. In fact, every friend I've ever had from another country has liked that show... so you're not alone.
(Sorry Sharon for cloggin' your blog with messages to other people... had to put in my 2 cents.)
Thanks for 'Dallas' stuff, L! I went to school downtown for a few years, and occasionally we'd run into tourists who thought Reunion Tower (big building with ball on top) was a special effect. School was very near the grassy knoll, and when they asked us where Kennedy was shot we'd all say "Right about here!" while pointing at the back of our necks. Most people enjoyed the joke, but we made one tourist cry.
On dating -- eHarmony hasn't been kind to me at all. Not one decent email converation, let alone a date. Having much better luck with match.com and Yahoo personals. There are just more members, plain and simple.
Normal blind dates, arranged by friends, are surreal. An e-date is even worse. There isn't anyone to vouch for the guy. Is he really single? Will he look like his photo? Does he talk better than he writes? Then there's all the concern for your saftey. Is he a stalker? Did he see your car's license plate?
I've been on three so far, two without chemistry and one that completely grossed me out. Nervous about this one, but my fingers are crossed.
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